Understanding Your Uniqueness (3)
In the past two weeks, I have taught on the creation of male and female genders and also the difference in the male gender.
In continuation of last week’s teaching, I will be enlightening you this week on the difference in the female gender.
To say that men and women are the “same” is to deny physical reality. Science makes it plain that male and female are different from the moment of conception. The estrogen and testosterone hormones have a significant impact on the behaviour of the male and female. Some often wonder why boys typically like to play with trucks and girls with dolls. Activists usually claim this is the result of socialization, but there is growing scientific evidence that boys and girls are greatly influenced by their respective hormones.
Similarly, it is important for you to know that the female gender, being a unique creation of God, is an incontestable fact! Everything about her person suggests that there is something special about her. God’s Word says: And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man (Genesis1: 27). That is, the woman was specially, wonderfully and skilfully made, built from a single rib of Adam in a miraculous way.
So, from creation, we see that God decidedly made the woman as a complement of the man. He made her to make a difference in the life of Adam; He created her to spice up his world. I cannot imagine what the world would have looked like without the female gender. Some men think that the world would have been a much happier place without women, but that is due to certain negative experiences they have had in times past. The truth is that God created the woman different in the world.
Primarily, I suggest a woman is distinct because she is God’s idea. But it’s quite unfortunate that some women don’t understand how unique they are. Adam hadn’t even imagined the woman, but God had her particularly in mind. God’s Word says: And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18).
While Adam was busy around in the bush thinking of how to give names to animals, God said, “This is not good. This man needs help.” So, it was God who said that the man needed the woman. She was God’s idea. A woman is a product from God; this makes her God’s property. It is, therefore, advisable to you as a man that if you handle your wife well, you are handling God’s property perfectly.
Briefly, let’s examine some of female’s mannerisms that make them different from the male:
Women like friendship all the time. While men oftentimes want to be alone, women want to talk. Women always like to be in the company of loving arms, go out together, hear your feelings about them, recognize their person, beauty, input at home and praise her, and give her listening ear always. She wants to be your best friend anyday, anytime. Time spent with her is no waste, but invested. To this end, it is important you know that as couples grow older, desires fade, but friendship remains. Thus, a female company will always be necessary.
This is one of Jesus’ characters as the head of the church (Matthew 9:36; 14:14, Mark 1:4). Women love and appreciate to be identified with, invested in, assisted and supported wherever and whenever you can. She’s concerned about being a help indeed, not a hurt. Thus, she expects that her husband’s strength should be for protection, not for bullying and barking. She wants the demonstration of tenderness and affection that you care. As a true husband, you need to let her know that she is a part of you in words and deeds.
Responsibility is the price for greatness. Every woman needs a responsible man as husband, financially, physically and otherwise. That is why marriage is not for boys and girls, but for “men and women”. I’ve been privileged to counsel women who are separated, and who said that their marriages failed because their husbands were irresponsible. When asked in what way were they irresponsible? One response is that the husband just delegates his responsibilities to her. Another said he lets her work and take care of the finances, while he just stays comfortably idle. Another said that he would run away from problems, instead of facing them and finding solutions. Another one cannot handle the responsibility of taking care of children, etc. This happens vice versa, when the wife too does not live up to her role as a wife and mother. Maturity, to a great deal, will determine how responsible you are!
In the context of marriage, every woman likes continuous courtship. So, as a husband, you must learn to be romantic. Continue to do better those things you used to do before marriage. Give expression to your love for her. Love grows; it is your responsibility to make it grow. Express your love to her in thought, words and in actions. Give her cards and gifts on special occasions; it is not the volume that counts to her, but the value you place on it. You shall not fail!
You need to give your life to Christ to have all it takes to enjoy a blissful marriage. You can say this prayer:
Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations! Till I come your way again next week, call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:
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For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches, and other leading Christian bookstores:
- Single With A Difference
- Make Life Count
- Marriage Covenant.